16-year-old backs out of group trip after friends plan age-restricted activities she's not able to attend: ‘I'm not just sitting at the Airbnb every single night’

The entire point of a "group trip" is to be in a group, not left out of most activities.

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  • If your plans have ever made it out of the group chat, you know just how exhausting it is to make a well-thought-out itinerary for you and your friends. It's difficult to appease everyone, especially when certain activities are age-restricted, only for women or men, or for folks who are abled-bodied versus those who have limited movement. Despite these challenges, it's crucial to make time for everyone to do something, and never leave anyone out for too long. If you're leaving them out of the action for over half the trip, why are they there in the first place?

    In this next story, a 16-year-old decides to speak up and tell her friends that she's dropping out of the group trip if they only partake in 18+ activities, since she is two years younger than most. She's uncomfortable lying about her age as well, so there's no way for her to comfortably attend the trip without either lying or sitting in their Airbnb while her friends party it up without her. It's a difficult situation to be in, but real friends would hear her out. Instead, they get upset. Scroll below to read.

  • "AITA for backing out of a trip with my friends because they planned activities I'm unable to participate in?"

    Hi! I (F16) and my friends (All F18) have been planning an end-of-school- year senior trip to New York since last year.
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  • We've all been super excited, already booked our Airbnb and bought tickets. I am a year younger than all of them because I started high school a year early, and originally, on our trip, we had planned some sightseeing stuff, Broadway plays, visiting the flea markets, art museums, basically like all the kind of toursity new york things.
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  • Recently, with all of them turning 18, they've wanted to add things like nightclubs, tattoos, and piercings together on the docket.
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  • I'm in no way opposed to this and said it could be fun if we got, like, matching stick-and-pokes or whatever.
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  • However, I wouldn't really be able to visit bars and clubs with them due to being underage.
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  • They said they want to go to professional places and stuff and get things done right.
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  • I said that's fine, but to limit this to one night tops, so I'm not just sitting at the Airbnb every single night alone doing nothing.
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  • I honestly would love to go because I do like parties and dancing and stuff, but I've also been accepted to a prestigious university, and I don't want to have anything on my record for the risk of getting it rescinded.
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  • I said that if they feel strongly about going clubbing and stuff, I would try to just like sneak in with them, but they all told me that they don't want to risk getting kicked out of the clubs, so I should just get a fake ID.
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  • This is something that could probably get me into legal trouble and I don't want to risk it.
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  • When I told them that, they kind of made it sound like they planned to go clubbing and stuff much more than we had originally intended, meaning I would basically be spending at least half the nights of the trip doing nothing.
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  • I told them that I hope they have fun, but if they're going to plan things I can't really participate in, I won't come on the trip with them because I'd rather go on a senior trip with other people where we do things that we all enjoy.
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  • My friends are now saying I'm guilt tripping them into changing their plans and it's unfair if I cancel this close to the trip because it makes it a lot more expensive for everyone else.
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  • They also said that I'm over exaggerating a bit because I can still do all the daytime activities we had originally planned (we still have Broadway tickets and stuff like that), so I'm being overdramatic.
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  • A senior trip is supposed to be a collective trip. The funniest part about this scenario is that, though the 16-year-old seems upset, she has no issue opting out of the vacation. She understands the age gap and what that might mean for her place on the trip. Her friends simply don't want to view themselves as villainous or selfish in any way, which, though understandable, goes against their actions.

  • Brief Horror NTA what clubs and bars are they getting into at 18 ???
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  • OP p Opmeow idk apparently they found some clubs in nyc that let in 18 year olds. i was confused too at first bc i thought clubs were all 21+ but aparently not?
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  • NTA. DJ_Too_Supreme_Mk3 >I wouldn't really be able to visit bars and clubs with them due to being underage They shouldn't be able to go to bars and clubs neither because they are also underaged, especially bars and clubs. Y'all have to be 21 or older. >They all told me that they don't want to risk getting kicked out of the clubs, so I should just get a fake ID That's a felony OP. Also, they would get kicked out too because they are underaged. In NY you have to be 21 or older (I'm from and live i
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  • OP p Opmeow bars was an incorrect choice of words, I meant clubs. they found like some 18+ clubs in the city i think
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